I wonder if it's just a matter of being good at heart despite the organization. Ray Franz said that about Robert Lang:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/142719/1/A-Man-in-Spite-of-the-Organization-ISOCF
I have been dealt with kindly and generously by most of my JW friends and family. We have all helped each other over the decades. To see me, to hear me talk, it is evident that I am by no means a cookie-cutter Witness. One dear, loving JW wants my help on a Bible study 'when I start going out in service again.'
Not all Jehovah's Witnesses are shallow and strictly adherent to the ever-changing thought and behavioral cult controls.
How it is here.
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